If we are not meant to do
life alone, why do we resist doing life together? God is constantly reminding
us in His Word that He created us for community…to lift each other up, to speak
truth to one another, to pray for and to love on one another. Why then don‘t we
follow Nike‘s advice and “just do it?!”
I've been thinking about this
a lot. As Director of Connection how can I not think about it? I think about
how to create spaces where relationships can be formed, AND how to make Sunday
morning a time to get to know each other better, AND how to get people to want
to join small groups….and you know what? There’s no easy answer!!
I could blame society and our
culture of self-sufficiency for making us self-focused versus others-focused. I
could blame all our busy-ness and activity for not allowing us time to connect
with each other. But, I've decided it often comes down to one thing…it‘s hard!
Connecting relationally makes us vulnerable. It takes time. It puts us at risk
for rejection, it forces us out of our comfort zone, it pushes us to make
conversation and take on others’ worries and problems. Bottom line, it’s a lot
harder to be in relationship than to be self-focused. If I only focus on me and
my stuff, I don’t have to be hurt or bothered.
Maybe we resist because we
might find out we are not perfect. It takes a lot of energy to keep up that
“shiny veneer” of perfection as people get to really know me. If I’m part of a
group who is fostering healthy, Christ-centered relationships I’m going to have
to get real. And real people are FLAWED and BROKEN. Yikes.
But here’s the UPSIDE and
what God reminds us over and over…life WITH each other is a full, robust life.
It is REAL. It is where you can be YOURSELF -- flaws and all -- and people will
still accept and love you. You don’t have to waste your energy putting on a
façade and making everything look perfect. Jesus is perfect. You are not.
And life together is where
our maturing in Christ happens -- not in isolation. God is revealed thru His
Word and thru community. In fact, His presence often comes through people. Did
you know that? He is present with us through relationships with others. He
adores community. God designed us for a way of life shared with him and with
others.
What’s holding you back?
Just do it.
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