A War of Words

A student did a study on the word "war" and people's first reaction upon hearing it.  Some people immediately thought of a specific war; while others pictured bombings and gun battles along with the devastation and casualties it brought.  There were many who felt a deep gratitude toward those who fight to defend our freedom, and a select few who were detached.  Typically, wars are waged across the sea and battlegrounds are in foreign territories.  So, these people had a feeling of being removed from the effects of war.

But the word "war" is not defined only as "a conflict between nations or active military operations".  It also means "active hostility or contention, as in a war of words"; "a struggle to achieve a goal, as in a war for hearts and minds".  And sometimes a war can be far more personal and the battleground can be right in our own homes.  As couples, the words we say, our expectations of each other, and our reactions can be the catalysts in our relationship that launches us into war.  The effects can devastate marriages and make casualties of spouses and children.

Do you need help with a peace treaty?  If so, raise the white flag and join us for "Fight Night" with Les and Leslie Parrott on Saturday, September 19 from 7:00 p.m. - 9:30 p.m.  They'll cover topics like: bridging the gender gap, the four red flags of conflict, the secret to keeping a cool head and a warm heart, and how 10 minutes out of your week will diminish conflict.  Learn about all of that and more in a fun and relaxed atmosphere. Go to www.FightNightIowa.com for more information.

By Brooke Brewer, Marriage Mentor & Ridge Family Member